The human brain is a wonderful thing! Whilst it may not believe everything you tell it, when you repeatedly tell yourself something, your brain tries to find evidence to confirm that belief, even if it’s not true. This process is known as Confirmation Bias. Whenever I hear a client mention those sneaky words in the title (along with another gem, Nothing), I want to delve deeper. Always and Never are a very long time. Likewise, People and Everyone encompasses a huge population!
Your subconscious mind can accept repeated thoughts and words as truth, even if they are false. Over time, this can shape your reality and influence your actions. Repeated exposure to a statement, whether thought, read, written or spoken, can make it feel true, even if it’s incomplete or false. Your self-talk can shape your brain. Thoughts and words create neural pathways that reinforce your beliefs. Surely it makes sense to feed your brain with balanced statements. I prefer to work with my clients to find a way through the negative self-talk towards something more nuanced and self-supporting. Constantly seeking proof of impending doom is exhausting. How much more optimal to approach ups and downs with a relaxed approach.
This starts with giving yourself the space to spot when these unhelpful words sneak into your vocabulary. Allow yourself to question the validity of your statements. Is it really Always? Who are these “Everyone” people? I’d like to suggest that these adverbs and pronouns pop up when you’re feeling up against it in some way. Whilst I’m not a counsellor, what Reiki offers is the time to allow your body to relax and receive healing. Time on the Reiki couch away from the daily grind can work wonders. I’m a great believer in the power of relaxation to facilitate a balanced perspective on even the gnarliest of challenges. The way a relaxed brain comes up with resourceful solutions to issues never ceases to amaze me. And I mean never! It is a constant source of joy from the work that I do!
If you’d like to find out more about Reiki and how I work, please have a browse through my website www.jackiekingturner.co.uk and get in touch if you have any questions and to book yourself an appointment! Looking forward to hearing from you!
Jackie King-Turner
07785 992928
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